Monday, December 5, 2011

Videos that are inspired... if you have a chance, watch!!! ("Create" -Elder Dieter F. Uchtdorf)

Parenting Styles

Autocratic (Authoritarian)
Active (Democratic/ Authoritative)
Permissive (Doormat Parents :please don't be this one... or your children will probably grow up being deviants of society)

Autocratic: ("its my way or the highway")
lots of pressure
few choices are given to children
"because I said so!"

With this parenting style there is lots of punishment, manipulation, rewards.
(i.e: Creepy Mother Golom in "Tangled")

"As parents, our children want us to do the right thing, whether it hurts or not!"

let them... friend instead of parent
"its okay!"
attention-seeking children
"Did you really care??"

A loving Parent must do the following:
1) Love
2) .... For emotions
3) Checking for understanding

Remember to keep in mind the following when speaking to your children:
-How to make an important decision.
-Your self worth.

This blog is a work in progress...

Family Crisis

Popkins discusses the purpose of parenting-
1) Protect
2) Prepare children to survive
3) Thrive

4 Qualities every young person needs to know:
-Responsibility: ability to respond= consequences + choices
-Courage= risk + outcome

Monday, November 7, 2011

99 Balloons Video!
Copy and paste this above link in your URL.

Parents of a Child who has died who stay together!
This is an amazing story and will only take a few minutes of your time.
Watch it, love it, post it!

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Social Class and Cultural Diversity

This video is a perfect example of different social classes in America.
What determines your social class and family-social status?
-Name (Last Name of the person you are related to)
-Friend's/ Associations

What's my social class?
I view my family's social class as being upper middle class. My Dad drove a Porsche and a 2 different Cadillac's and we lived in one of the nicest neighborhoods in Lexington, even though the "hood" and projects (Section 8 housing) was located just down the street, on the other side of the stop light. Which separated the housing neighborhoods and communities.

How does this impact my view of my family?
This assignment changed the impact of the view of my family, because I simply realized that families don't have to be as chaotic as my was growing up, even though they may have money.


Monday, October 10, 2011

Family Social Status and Diversity

What determines our family- social status?
-$ money
-Health Conditions
-Name (who you are related to)
-Inheritance or income

With all these different aspects to determine family social stauses... there is still more. There is still Diversity among those who are non-white Mormons, in a sense.

-How do we comment on what we see?
-Coloration among skin color?
-Experiences? (Life, serving missions)
-Family Dynamics
-Part-Member Families
-Pioneer Stock

These are all aspects that we use as judgment statements that are helpful to our views on families and society's impact.

Week of 9/28/11 = Positive/ Neg. Feedback

There are open and closed boundaries between any relationship.
There are always subsets; a system within the system.
Locus of Pathology; system lies your own individual interaction within your family.
Circular Causality vs. Linear

Between Husbands and Wives there needs to be clear boundaries, these are ---- (dashed lines) like it is in a yard in a neighborhood, they are actually and literally invisible but it is still a figurative line.

Rigid lines- are razor wire that surround the yard with cement blocks.
Diffuse lines- not enough, in terms of boundaries.

Negative Feedback- is any kind of feedback that is taken in a negative way.
Positive Feedback-is any kind of change or feedback that is good.

Monday, October 3, 2011

FAM 160- Things that I learned this week

Hypothesis: educated guess, useful for forming questions, ideas. Finding an explanation for something. (A guess, for what will happen!)

Theory: explaining, what it is that happens. Explanation; predictions, influences.

Law: concentrates theory & hypothesis.

Family Systems Theory:
-One unit
-People play different roles, in their families.

Exchange theory- asserts that we attempt to keep our costs lower than our rewards. Individual weighs the pros/cons of a situation. Individual is being self-centered, b/c they are only our of to help themselves.

Symbolic Interaction Theory- our interpretation of a situation is as important as anything that is objectivity true about that situation. Being shaped by interaction experiences.

Conflict Theory- all societies are inequality, conflict, change as groups within the society struggle over scare resources.

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

FAM 160 Class- This entry separates from previous posts!

This entry separates my previous posts from FAM100 and is now starting FAM160 @ BYU-Idaho! Sorry for the confusion, hopefully this makes sense. If you have any questions or concerns please let me know. And leave a comment! Thanks, ~Alex

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Families are so important

When I was younger, I didn't have the best family in the world. My family wasn't very supportive, didn't take care of me the ways that society tells them that they should have been. I understand that every family has its issues, its ups and its downs. However we should all strive to be better individuals while we are here in this life. Sometimes it is a difficult task because of the trials and temptations that we face on a daily basis, however we know that what we are doing is either right or wrong. Is either going to affect our families in a negative aspect or in a positive way.

Let's all try starting today to be better Family members to each other, just for the sake of doing so. Being more involved in the lives of others, especially those in our families. Giving positive feedback and listening to the promptings of the spirit.